First let me update on my last post about the pregnancy announcement I got from my cousin. After much thought and reading your comments I decided to send her an e-mail. I told how hurt I was that she has yet to acknowledge that I have been dealing with infertility for 3 years. I told her I was happy for her but that I needed her to be sensitive to my situation. She replied that she was sorry and since I am such a private person she thought she was doing the right thing by not bringing it up. I received another e-mail from her about an hour later and she was pissed..apparently the more she thought about it the more angry she was that I said she was being insensitive. At this point I decided to call her because both of our feelings were hurt. We talked for 45 minutes and I explained what I needed from her in this type of situation. We both apologized and have moved forward.
The more I am put in this situation the more I learn. It is difficult for me to know how to react to my situation half the time much less expect other people to know. So I have learned to just tell people what I need from them. So now I am being up front and it seems to be working.
Now onto my new adventure....
I started a photography business!!! I am very excited but also scared to death. I am scared of failing and normally that would stop me from trying but screw it. I am changing!!
Check out my website http://www.babycakesphotographybyjess.com/ if you live in St. Louis, MO or know someone who does feel free to pass this info along.
If you are on Facebook, "like" me...I need some followers. CLICK HERE
Thanks!!!
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
New adventure
Posted by Jessica at 4:08 PM
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Jess, that's awesome! I love your pictures, I wish I was in the MO area. Florida is a little far away to schedule a shoot. I will "like" you on FB though for sure.
Seriously, I wish you were in my area- your photos are wonderful! I hope your business venture is a complete success! I am not on facebook, but I like you anyway ;-)
That is a bummer about your interaction with your cousin- it is so hard when you have to deal with your own disappointment but also have to deal with educating people on what it's like to live with infertility. I give you alot of credit for just calling her and talking it out- I think I would have just sat there and fumed after her second email ;-) Praying for you (HUG)
Just liked your FB page :) Gorgeous pics!
I am so sorry to hear of the interaction between your cousin and yourself. Dancing around infertility, losses, and pregnancies of others is so tough. People just don't understand unless they've fought the battles or walked in those shoes. It makes it really frustrating on so many levels. You wonder if you're being overly sensitive or if the person is just a major beyotch. Ugh. I'm so glad it worked itself out. Hugs to you for standing up for yourself.
YAY for your new business! I "liked" your page :)
Im sorry you had to go through that with your cousin. It makes ya both stronger in the end though! Kudos for standing up for yourself..you go girl!
I am so glad you talked to her and cleared things up. Though I would never express it outwardly, I would be so hurt that other people did not know how to act around me. It takes a pretty big person to recognize that people are just not going to know unless they are told and then actually them what you need. I would just sulk or cry on my own.
You are so strong...you are amazing.
I'm glad you and your cousin were able to talk it out and feel better about things. Good luck with the photography!
It's so good you were able to talk things out with your cousin. I'm with you - just lay it out there and be honest!
Congrats on the new business! It's so exciting! :)
"The more I am put in this situation the more I learn. It is difficult for me to know how to react to my situation half the time much less expect other people to know. So I have learned to just tell people what I need from them. So now I am being up front and it seems to be working"- This is so true. Sometimes I get wrapped up in my own feelings, it is hard to understand what our friends may feel, or not know how to feel. I don't think it takes away from the insensitive ones out there, but, the only way we can get what we need is by speaking up. It took me almost 3 years to figure that out. It is easier to just say it, and tell them to try to understand what we feel now, and need now, may be different tomorrow.
Also...congrats on following your dream!!! I wish we lived closer, I'd hire you!
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